tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20381399.post113752296814407237..comments2023-12-31T01:32:28.935-06:00Comments on At A Hen's Pace: Advice Column--Contributors Welcome!At A Hen's Pacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02244490539003130874noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20381399.post-1138032963409356592006-01-23T10:16:00.000-06:002006-01-23T10:16:00.000-06:00jlm--Wise advice. I agree. That's pretty much what...jlm--<BR/><BR/>Wise advice. I agree. That's pretty much what I meant at the outset when I said hold him tight and croon in his ear. Letting them scream it out is more of a last resort. <BR/><BR/>But it depends on the child so much. I've had several who actually became happy as clams as soon as you put them in their crib. It's like the solitude , in that familiar, comfortable place of their own, was what they needed to regroup their emotions.<BR/><BR/>Thanks so much for contributing!!At A Hen's Pacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02244490539003130874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20381399.post-1137726051348284482006-01-19T21:00:00.000-06:002006-01-19T21:00:00.000-06:00Welcome to you both--and thanks for adding your su...Welcome to you both--and thanks for adding your suggestions! They're great. It's all worth trying!<BR/><BR/>Gabi--Ooohh, good! It's so much more fun doing this when you know someone's reading it!!<BR/><BR/>Holy Mama, thanks for visiting! I left a comment on your site too.At A Hen's Pacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02244490539003130874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20381399.post-1137647493106380622006-01-18T23:11:00.000-06:002006-01-18T23:11:00.000-06:00Hello Jeannie! I am so glad to have found your bl...Hello Jeannie! I am so glad to have found your blog. I "love" blogs, especially of people I know irl. I read what you replied to Dave and I just have a tad bit more to add. <BR/><BR/>Okay, just deleted about two paragraphs of me reambling...<BR/><BR/>my advice is to whisper. When the child begins to scream, Dave or his wife should whisper. Has worked like a charm for me in the past. I usually whisper something like, I can't understand you when you're screaming. The child must stop screaming in order to hear what you are saying. Also, I am assuming this has been tried but, distraction is almost always necessary at this age. It is a lot of work for the parents, but has never failed me.<BR/><BR/>GabiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20381399.post-1137613059819410982006-01-18T13:37:00.000-06:002006-01-18T13:37:00.000-06:00Hi! I found you from Amy's H/M site! We have 4 kid...Hi! I found you from Amy's H/M site! We have 4 kids, and we've always done two things (the first of which may be too advanced to work now with such a young one) : if a kid is having a screaming fit, we matter of factly say that that fit can take place in his/her room with the door shut if it's truly necessary. The key part here is that it does not get a reaction. The second thing we do, also matter of factly, is to shrug and say, "I'm sorry. You do not get your way when you act like that." SOmetimes it's a request that I would have easily granted, but if it's accompanied by bad behavior I feel obligated to NOT fulfill it, lest I teach that fits actually work! (And that is SO not the goal around here!) It's my 2 cents, and may not be worth much more than that, but hey! It was an open invitation for parenting advice, and I don't get those too often! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com