Friday, December 20, 2013

Twenty-Seven Years

It's our anniversary!

What a crazy time of year to get married. What were we thinking?

Our anniversary always feels more like a hurried peck, squeezed in amongst the busy-ness that is December, than a slow romantic kiss. Too many other things on our minds--Advent observance, Christmas preparations and celebrations, year-end business to conclude, performances and parties to attend, extra shopping, menu planning and housecleaning, and travel plans.

It's easy to take "us" for granted. After all, we're not going anywhere!

But I thank God for my husband, who knows me better than anyone--especially the icky parts that I hide when outside of my own house--and he's still around.

I can't find an actual author for this quote--(who is The Great Kamryn anyway?)--but I saved it just for this post:

"The truth is that the more intimately you know someone, the more clearly you'll see their flaws. That's just the way it is. This is why marriages fail, why children are abandoned, why friendships don't last. You might think you love someone until you see the way they act when they’re out of money or under pressure or hungry, for goodness’ sake. Love is something different. Love is choosing to serve someone and be with someone in spite of their filthy heart. Love is patient and kind, love is deliberate. Love is hard. Love is pain and sacrifice, it’s seeing the darkness in another person and defying the impulse to jump ship."

He could have jumped ship at many points in the past 27 years. Me too. By God's grace we've learned, over and over, how to find our way back through our own hurts and resentments to be with each other in all the pain of filthy hearts that are willing to trust that the other will forgive and love again.

It's not easy.

But I'm thankful to be doing it with him--my best friend.

Happy Twenty-Seven Years, Honey!


Amy @ Experience Imagination said...

Congratulations on 27 years! My parents got married this time of year, too (December 21, to be exact). We used to tease them that they were so looking forward to their wedding night, they chose the longest night of the year. ;)

Anonymous said...

Yes, Happy Anniversary! We were all crazy-busy making the wedding happen, too(!) but it was lovely, and a great start for a happy married life ahead, with only the usual bumpy road to travel. We're glad you've made it thru with God's help, and may He bless your next years ahead. Lots of love, your mom